I like the clear distinction hip hopper Jay Smooth makes in this video blog “How to Tell People They Sound Racist” between “what you did” and “who you are.” It offers, at least in my mind, a good entre to acknowledge unconscious bias as well.
The hard part about calling one’s own unconscious bias into the open is the fear of feeling/being seen as “a racist” (who you are). Whereas deep analysis through a lens of ‘what you did’ is a great way to explore unconscious bias, to understand where it comes from and be able to learn and grow for the future.
(Thanks to Aliza Hausman at Memoirs of a Jewminicana where I originally found this video blog)