Did you know that Leonardo DiCaprio turned down the part of Anakin Skywalker in the Star Wars prequels because he felt he wasn’t ready? Of course he went on to great fame with Titanic, but it begs the question—should you be the one to say no?
We say no to things for many reasons. Certainly not feeling ready for a challenge might be one of those reasons. (Although saying yes right at that moment could be just the impetus for explosive growth.) Don’t you be the one to say no.
Often we pull ourselves out of the running because of what we think the other person’s response will be. We don’t ask for that informational interview. We don’t invite someone to be a guest on a podcast. Even personally we may not make overtures to potential new friends. A strong reason for this is fear of rejection. No, we have heard plenty, and certainly we’ll hear it again. Nine times out of ten it’s not about you at all. Don’t stop yourself before giving the other person a chance to respond on their own. Putting positive, creative energy into the world will only beget more positivity. If not at this moment, then the next time around. So if you find yourself not asking, based on how you think someone else will respond, say to yourself, “don’t you be the one to say no.” |